Forgiveness

Stephanie and I did a show today that revolved around our first semi-religious topic....Religion is a topic we shy away from because it's one that is very personal to us both. We differ in viewpoints. But as I've said on many occasions, Steph and I are very lucky in that we can state our views and respect each other. Religious debates never turn into religious arguments. Stephanie is Christian, 100% and isn't shy about sharing that faith. I, on the other hand, believe in God, but my faith extends to the more New Age beliefs. I know about Christianity, and can't say I don't believe in many of the Christian values, but I can't say I don't believe in a lot of Buddhist values, Pagan values, and so on.

I want to blog about forgiveness today. It seems so many people come into my life and at the first sign of trouble they are ready to bolt. Relationships aren't meant to be perfect. Relationships are bound to have their rocky times, their times when they are barely afloat, and their times when, yes, they are hard. And while relationships aren't meant to be work, it takes effort on both parts to maintain a relationship. It takes time to build trust, and time to understand each other. And when things happen, it takes time to work them out. Being adults, adults should be willing to work them out, not turn their back and walk away. A discussion is at least worth having before turning your back and walking away.

Isn't it taught in most religions that forgiveness is of the utmost importance? After all who are we to judge? Won't you be standing in your own judgment on your critical day? Do you want to be shamed by the grudges you hold? I get tired of begging people to talk it out with me. Of apologizing endlessly. Of saying let's be adult and talk about it. Yes I do wrong. I am an imperfect person. Sometimes I jump to conclusions. I get in a bad mood. I get sad, I get down and I get angry. But I love my friends, and I love them well. I try very hard to be understanding and when I have been wrong, I will apologize. But I get sick of this attitude that I can do what I want, but you...oh you will be persecuted to the fullest, and I will damn well never speak to you for what you did again.

Forgiveness people. Everyone does wrong. EVERYONE. And every action has a consequence. Let me out myself here. Recently a friend contacted me...this is someone I've known since I was a kid, and he likes to play a lot of games with me. However, I believed he was serious when he contacted me. We arranged to meet, and suddenly right after I get the message that he is coming over I get a message that his dad is going to the hospital. To me it seems like another game he is playing. He is pissed that I got pissed. Who is right? Who has the right to be angry? Well probably both of us. Maybe I overreacted....maybe I should have been more compassionate....however it is his actions in the past which led me to the conclusion I jumped to. I am well and truly sorry for this. However, many times in the past I have forgiven him his indiscretions....including very recently which is what led to our discussion to begin with. But I can't be forgiven? Can we say hypocritical?

What happened to do unto others? Do unto others people? The bible says it very plainly. Steph and I bring it up on the show all the time. What is the matter with people.

To all those I've hurt...I'm sorry....but where are your apologies for hurting me? Why is it okay for hurting me but I'm a bitch for doing it to you? Do unto others.....


Religious or not....treat other people the way you want to be treated. You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to do everything right, and no you aren't always going to make everyone happy. You might even screw up every now and again. But when you're sorry, say you're sorry and mean it, and when you hear it..don't just turn your back...love one another....people and time are all we got...

I can tell you from experience....when I really needed someone, Steph was there for me. No matter how I pushed...no matter what I did, Steph would say to me, When you're ready, I'm there for you....and so she is. Do unto others. Forgive...nothing is that bad that you should turn your back on someone you care about. If you really love someone.....and they really matter to you, you never know when tomorrow will be too late.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.


Love, As always,

Jordana